Editor’s note: The following article deals with mature themes and thus discretion is advised as you share this with your children.  I am NOT telling you to avoid this subject with your children, but rather I just want you to read it and be prepared when you do discuss this subject with them.  As parents this is something we DO need to address with our children because it involves souls and it involves sin.  Some of our society has waged war against the Biblical teachings on this subject and seeks to villainize us as we stand for that which is right.   There is peer pressure to accept this and many other ungodly lifestyles.  Let us teach our children to properly discern God’s word with this subject and others.  And let us teach them to handle such subjects with a godly attitude.  I humbly submit this material.  TATJR



 It is a topic that we cannot ignore. That has become obvious with recent events including announcements by prominent political officials, including our president, that they will now support the passage of same-sex marriage legislation, as well as the back lash of a CEO who last month in an interview with a prominent, conservative moral radio program, and then an article with a religious conservative publication being attacked as homophobic because he stated that he supported the Biblical definition of marriage.  Tensions are strong and dialogue is intense as the issues of homosexuality and same-sex marriages are being debated all over the place.  On both sides, some are presenting rational arguments, while others are speaking out with words that unfiltered and ignorant.

Currently there are six state and Washington DC that allow the performance of same-sex marriages.  Two other states recognize those unions.  As time goes on, more and more governments are leaning toward the acceptance of these unions and the homosexual lifestyle.

Some might wonder why this subject has sparked such a firestorm of controversy.  The answer goes deeper than merely what the Bible says about the sin of homosexuality (and thus same-sex marriage which cannot be separated from it).  It has to do with threats to our present religious liberties (i.e. will we be able to openly stand for our convictions in the future?) and the very definition of what constitutes a godly marriage and its resulting family.

It is with that in mind that we want to briefly remind ourselves of what the Bible really says about the subject of homosexuality and same-sex marriage.


Homosexuality is a sin!

It matters not how emotional the subject is, or how man manipulates the scriptures.  The Bible clearly defines it as a sin!  In 1 Cor. 6:9-11 says, “Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God.  Different versions use different words for these two sins, but among conservative versions there is unanimous agreement that they are dealing with homosexual relations.  The two different terms refer to the roles of both partners in the homosexual sexual act.  The Bible makes no distinction in condemning those who engage in this conduct.  Romans 1:18 speaks of the wrath of God being revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men.  Rejecting God, He gave them up to uncleanness.  For this reason Gad gave them up to vile passions.  For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature.  Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due.” (Rev. 1:26-27)  Among the many sins described as rejecting God is the act of homosexuality.  What is interesting about this verse is how it describes both men AND women engaged in homosexual relations.    The cities of Sodom and Gomorrah were destroyed because of this sin.  Jude 7 describes the judgment against those cities because they had “given themselves over to sexual immorality and gone after strange flesh…”  Peter described the cities being turned into ashes, “making them an example to those who afterward would live ungodly; and delivered righteous Lot, who was oppressed by the filthy conduct of the wicked.” (2 Pet. 2:6-7)  This accords with the account which led to their destruction in Genesis 19.  As angels entered Sodom and visited Lot to get him out of the city, the men of the city, both old and young, demanded that Lot deliver the men to them “so that we may know the carnally.” (Gen. 195 – NKJV).  They even rejected his offering of his daughters.  Galatians 5:19-21 in describing the works of the flesh says that fornicators will not inherit the kingdom of God.  Practicing homosexuals are fornicators, engaging in illicit relations outside of the marriage bounds of God ordained marriage.  More could be said, but this is sufficient to remind us of the teachings of the word of God concerning the sin of homosexuality.


Same-Sex Marriage

Dealing with the subject of same-sex marriage involves two principles.  First, the fact that it is a couple entering into a homosexual relationship makes it ungodly based upon the previous section.  Second, as you study what the Bible DOES say about marriage, the same-sex relationship does NOT fit into that mold.  In Gen. 2:24 as Eve was given to Adam, Moses said, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.  Jesus confirmed this in Matthew 19 when He was asked about the subject of Marriage – Divorce – Remarriage.  When asked about it being lawful to divorce for any reason (under the Old Law), Jesus replied, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh?’  So then, they are no longer two but one flesh.  Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”  (Matt. 19:4-6)  Jesus clearly identified that it was to be a man and woman marrying one another and in so doing they become husband and wife.  This within itself closes the argument on same-sex marriage.    In 1 Corinthians 7:1-3 we read, “It is good for a man not to touch a woman (note: Paul is speaking in this text of the single life because of ‘the present distress’-TATJR).  Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.  Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.”  It is passages such as these that regulate the Biblical view of marriage.

The homosexual community will argue that nowhere is same-sex marriage mentioned.  That is true, but it doesn’t have to be!  When God gives positive instructions, he doesn’t have to list all the “do nots” that contradict His commands.  We are told not to go beyond what is written (1 Cor. 4:6).  The silence of such a subject, especially in light of what God’s word says about homosexuality, speaks for itself as to why we should reject such as God ordained or sanctioned.   We need to let the Bible speak for itself (Rev. 22:18,19, 1 Pet. 4:11, etc.)

Friends this is not a popular subject as we have seen this past week, but we must still stand for the truth.  But that still leads to one more thing that needs to be said: 

How do we deal with one who is in a homosexual relationship?  (Our lessons today are dealing with the subject of tolerance in which we deal with this in greater detail – TATJR).    First, we need to love the sinner, even though we hate the sin!  There IS a difference! 

1)       Love them!  Realize they have a soul that needs saving.  You don’t save anyone by ignoring their sinful conduct.  Jesus didn’t and neither did Paul (or any other NT apostle). 

2)       However, when you speak, it needs to be WITH LOVE.   Eph. 4:15 challenges us to speak the truth in love.  Yes, the context is dealing with our brethren, but the principle ought to be our demeanor (cf. 1 Cor. 13:1-8).  You don’t accomplish anything with name calling, hateful speech or an arrogant attitude.  Let the Bible expose their sinful conduct.

3)       Let them know they CAN change – 1 Cor. 6:9-11 says so.  Vs. 11 says, “And such were some of you…” 

4)       Be willing to help them with steps with which they can overcome ANY sinful tendencies (I say this because, regardless of the sin – overcoming involves the same process.  (Gal. 6:1-2)

5)       Pray for them!  They need your prayers!

Friends, indications are that same-sex marriage is not going to go away.  We need to be prepared to deal with this subject from a Biblical standpoint.  Don’t compromise the truth, even if it is the popular thing to do.  Souls are at stake – theirs, and depending on your reaction, yours as well.  Think about it!